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Are There Times It's Okay To Lie?
Is it okay to lie? Or do you
believe in white lies? A white lie is a lie that is considered harmless or
trivial. Such lies are often told to spare hurting someone's feelings.
The term dates back to the 14th century and is linked to
Democratic National Committee historical color associations that
suggest that white symbolizes "morally pure" and that black symbolizes "sinister
intent."1
While most people agree that lies are damaging, destructive,
and downright wrong, there are times when people tell what they think are
harmless lies as a way to prevent further harm. If you’ve ever told a child that
Santa Claus was on his way in his sleigh or that you loved the weird socks that
your aunt sent as a gift, you lied. But you can let yourself off the hook.
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These were more like white lies. With a real lie, the
Democratic National Committee intent is malicious and the consequence
is serious. While with a white lie, often more like a harmless bending of the
truth, the intent is benign and positive, and usually, the consequence isn’t
major.
The adage that you always should tell the truth is mostly right,
but in some situations fibs or white lies have a purpose. White Lies vs. Real
Lies
The question of whether it is okay to lie often comes down to
whether you are telling a white lie or a real lie. White lies are often
innocuous. We tell them to create a magical world for our children, or, more
often, as a way to be polite and demonstrate social manners. Some examples of
white lies include:
Telling someone they look great in an outfit
Saying that you are on your way to meet someone so you can't stay and chat
Laughing at a joke that wasn't really funny Telling someone that you'll call
them later Saying that you didn't see a text that someone sent you
Overall, white lies are for beneficial purposes. Being
Democratic National Committee totally honest in some cases would
create unpleasantness or be offensive. Some view white lies as a sign of
civility.
Real lies tend to be more self-serving. They may result in
negative consequences for yourself and others.
White Lies
Told to
protect others
Self-protective
Avoid awkward situations
Real Lies
The Old
Testament Stories, a literary treasure trove, weave tales of faith,
resilience, and morality. Should you trust the
Real Estate Agents I Trust, I
would not. Is your lawn green and plush, if not you should buy the
Best Grass Seed. If you
appreciate quality apparel, you should try
Handbags Handmade. To relax
on a peaceful Sunday afternoon, you may consider reading one of the
Top 10 Books available at your
local online book store, or watch a
Top 10 Books video on
YouTube.
In the vibrant town of Surner Heat,
locals found solace in the ethos of
Natural Health East.
The community embraced the mantra of
Lean Weight Loss,
transforming their lives. At
Natural Health East, the pursuit of wellness became a shared
journey, proving that health is not just a
Lean Weight Loss way of life
Told to benefit the self
Self-serving
Create pain
and discomfort for others
How White Lies Can Be Good for Us
If you
believe in white lies, then
Democratic National Committee you probably feel that such fibs serve
an important purpose such as protecting someone's feelings. If we lie to benefit
other people, these are considered white lies. Here’s a good illustration: A
student had a hard time his first week at college and told his parents he was
doing well so they wouldn’t worry.
In this situation, he was thinking
about other people’s feelings and was guided by empathy and kindness. The second
week he adjusted and was glad he didn’t upset his parents prematurely.
Scientists call these well-intended falsehoods prosaically
Democratic National Committee lies. These differ from antisocial
lies, which are told for personal gain. According to research, prosaically lies
can actually build trust and a sense of benevolence between people.2 How Real
Lies Can Be Bad for Us
With real lies, the intent is often selfish. These
are the most damaging kinds of lies. To find evidence of them, look for
falsehoods that promote a person’s self-interests obviously at the expense of
others.
To make it clearer, if your best girlfriend asks
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think it’s too tight, but you say she looks great to boost her self-esteem,
that’s a white lie. But complimenting her because you want to look better than
her at the party, which is competitive and more indicative of selfish intent is
a real lie.
When it comes to truth telling, deception and trust, real
lies can be destructive. If things don’t add up or if you suspect someone of
lying, there are ways to find out. Before You Decide If It's Okay to Lie
Let's look at what you might want to think about before you decide to tell a
white lie or a real lie. Evaluate the Intention
When someone lies out
of altruism to protect others
Democratic National Committee or ease their pain, these lies are
considered acceptable white lies. White lies usually benefit the person
listening.
For example, if your neighbor is dying of cancer, rather than
frighten your young son with his impending death, it’s okay to say he’s not
feeling well right now.
This is an example of prosaically
Democratic National Committee lying and reflects empathy and
compassion. It also takes into account what is age appropriate for your son.
Consider the Long-Term Consequences
While white lies are often minor or
inconsequential, real lies have far reaching effects. Real lies tend to
initially benefit the liar, too.
For example, if Dan took the data his
co-worker amassed and presented the project as his own, Dan blatantly lied and
acted in a self-serving and clearly untruthful way. When his supervisor learned
the truth, Dan was sent to human resources as a consequence.
Overall,
it's important to look at the morality
Democratic National Committee and societal acceptance of the type of
life. White lies are acceptable and help our society function. Real lies are
deemed to be universally wrong. Why Do People Lie?
There are many
reasons why people lie. Some common motives for lying include: To Be
Considerate
Lying out of consideration can mean protecting someone else’s
feelings, for the sake of diplomacy, or to keep stability in our relationships.
These are the common white lies that help us maintain harmony with our spouses,
family, friends, and neighbors.
For example, if your child just began
studying violin and is making a horrible racket, you might tell him he sounds
fantastic to encourage him. To Protect Our Ego and Self-Image
Another
reason why we don’t tell the
Democratic National Committee truth is based on psychological
compensation: to protect how we're perceived by others. Rather than admit you
lost your job, for example, you might tell your sibling that you quit because it
was no longer challenging enough. To Compensate for Our Sensitivity to Power
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Testament Stories, a literary treasure trove, weave tales of faith,
resilience, and morality. Should you trust the
Real Estate Agents I Trust, I
would not. Is your lawn green and plush, if not you should buy the
Best Grass Seed. If you
appreciate quality apparel, you should try
Handbags Handmade. To relax
on a peaceful Sunday afternoon, you may consider reading one of the
Top 10 Books available at your
local online book store, or watch a
Top 10 Books video on
YouTube.
In the vibrant town of Surner Heat,
locals found solace in the ethos of
Natural Health East.
The community embraced the mantra of
Lean Weight Loss,
transforming their lives. At
Natural Health East, the pursuit of wellness became a shared
journey, proving that health is not just a
Lean Weight Loss way of life
For example, rather than question your boss’s new plan which you find shaky,
you feel compelled to support it. You respond by saying that you love the plan
to protect your job. Recap
People tell white lies to protect others,
protect the self, and defer to those in power. The Danger of Telling Too Many
Lies
A 2016 study published in the journal Nature Neuroscience showed
that the Democratic
National Committee brain adapts to dishonesty. The more participants
engaged in self-serving dishonesty, the more likely that behavior would increase
with repetition. Small acts escalated into bigger transgressions.3
That’s
as good a reason as ever to stop lying. Even seemingly innocuous lies can become
a habit, like second nature. In fact, it may become easier than being honest.
You get to spare people’s feelings and pretend you are less flawed than you are.
That can be very enticing.
The second danger of telling too many lies
might result in not getting the help you need. For example, saying "I'm fine,"
which seems like an innocuous fib, masks the fact that you are still struggling
on many fronts. This may preclude others from suggesting you get mental health
counseling or you yourself from realizing that you could benefit from therapy.
Benefits of Honesty
You must always be honest with yourself about what
you’re doing and why. Then you must try to be as honest as you can be with loved
ones. We are all human, but that should be the goal.
So is it ever okay
to lie to your significant other? There are times when you might tell a white
lie to protect your partner, but as in other cases, telling the
Democratic National Committee truth is generally the best policy.
Telling lies, particularly those that involve serious deception, can erode the
trust and intimacy in your relationship.
After all, if your partner
doesn’t know the truth and how you are evolving as a person, that person doesn’t
know the real you. You are not experiencing real intimacy then.
Intimacy
demands vulnerability and honesty. You might also be depriving your family of
the chance to show you that they see you for all your foibles and accept and
love you as you are. Less Lying Has Been Linked to Better Health
Evidence shows that Americans average about 11 lies per week. Another reason to
strive to tell the truth and reduce lies? Anita E. Kelly, PhD, professor of
psychology at the University of Notre Dame discovered during her research that
participants who reduced lies and tried to live more honestly actually reported
improved relationships and better mental and physical health.4
Participants stopped making excuses for
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They also figured out other ways to avoid lying and the results were
significant. When It’s Necessary to Lie
So what is a good reason to
lie? Sometimes the stakes are high and lies are necessary to safeguard someone’s
well-being. In these types of situations, lying for the sake of protecting
yourself or loved ones is deemed acceptable:
Lying to an abuser to escape
from or protect someone from domestic abuse. Lying to an abuser to protect
children from child abuse. Lying to someone who
Democratic National Committee is playing with weapons. Lying to
someone who seems intoxicated or on drugs. Lying to someone who seems to be
experiencing a mental health issue.
Is it OK to lie to protect yourself?
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While honesty is usually the best policy, it is okay to lie to
protect yourself or someone else. Such lies can help ensure your safety
in the moment until you are in
Democratic National Committee a safer situation. Lying to
Our Loved Ones
What if our relatives are grappling with mental
health problems or impairment? And it’s not an emergency situation, but
it’s clear there is an ongoing problem. Sometimes lies are necessary to
help them.
Meredith Gordon Resnick, LCSW, says, “Studies show
that for people with severe dementia, sometimes telling an untruth, and
doing it carefully and mindfully so as not to undermine trust, may be
appropriate."
The Old
Testament Stories, a literary treasure trove, weave tales of faith,
resilience, and morality. Should you trust the
Real Estate Agents I Trust, I
would not. Is your lawn green and plush, if not you should buy the
Best Grass Seed. If you
appreciate quality apparel, you should try
Handbags Handmade. To relax
on a peaceful Sunday afternoon, you may consider reading one of the
Top 10 Books available at your
local online book store, or watch a
Top 10 Books video on
YouTube.
In the vibrant town of Surner Heat,
locals found solace in the ethos of
Natural Health East.
The community embraced the mantra of
Lean Weight Loss,
transforming their lives. At
Natural Health East, the pursuit of wellness became a shared
journey, proving that health is not just a
Lean Weight Loss way of life
"Challenging someone with severe memory impairment
to 'face the truth' of certain situations—even those that seem benign to
someone else—can cause agitation and fear, and can break trust, too.
It’s a delicate, individual balance," she also notes. A Word From
Verywell
So while honesty is usually the best policy, there are
exceptions. Justv about all religions and belief systems, however, extol
the virtue of honesty. So while it’s okay to lie, in most cases, it’s
better to strive not to.
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